C.S. Lewis discusses some of these themes in his book “The Four Loves.” He approaches Friendship as the Ancients do, which is akin to, “Do you see the same truth?” This is distinct from “companions” who may be associated with a shared space or activity.
In The Tipping Point they talk about how certain people are powerful influencers because they are “masters of the weak connection.” Maybe they become known as “someone who travels overseas a lot” or “someone who likes remodeling their house.” So people with a weak acquaintance-like connection reach out to them to ask their perspective on those topics. And the result is that they influence a wide circle of people, even if those people are not “close friends.”
Yeah weak connections bring a certain type of power in and of itself. I was a corporate gal so used to read Adam Grant's work on weak ties and can testify to the great things they can offer
Yes! Every day I get an email or two from some group at the company who heard I was somehow involved in a thing. And at a minimum I try to plug them into the right people and make the connection. Like a jumper cable.
Same here :) and similar to you I've come to realize people ebb & flow in your life.
Some friends, you're with really intensely for a small period of time and then you don't speak for months. It's a different expectation and relationship with each one.
That's an interesting definition of "friends". I see most of them as fleeting connections due to the particular life stage we're at. The sad part is when most of those connections drift away because you're constantly operating in stage 2. Most people don't like progression or change and they end up going separate ways.
But is a tradeoff, I believe, every person who wants to be exceptional has to make sooner or later.
C.S. Lewis discusses some of these themes in his book “The Four Loves.” He approaches Friendship as the Ancients do, which is akin to, “Do you see the same truth?” This is distinct from “companions” who may be associated with a shared space or activity.
In The Tipping Point they talk about how certain people are powerful influencers because they are “masters of the weak connection.” Maybe they become known as “someone who travels overseas a lot” or “someone who likes remodeling their house.” So people with a weak acquaintance-like connection reach out to them to ask their perspective on those topics. And the result is that they influence a wide circle of people, even if those people are not “close friends.”
Yeah weak connections bring a certain type of power in and of itself. I was a corporate gal so used to read Adam Grant's work on weak ties and can testify to the great things they can offer
Yes! Every day I get an email or two from some group at the company who heard I was somehow involved in a thing. And at a minimum I try to plug them into the right people and make the connection. Like a jumper cable.
That sounds awesome!
a connection to last. "
Same here :) and similar to you I've come to realize people ebb & flow in your life.
Some friends, you're with really intensely for a small period of time and then you don't speak for months. It's a different expectation and relationship with each one.
Thanks for sharing Minh 😄
Thank you Kiran! Glad you like this one
That's an interesting definition of "friends". I see most of them as fleeting connections due to the particular life stage we're at. The sad part is when most of those connections drift away because you're constantly operating in stage 2. Most people don't like progression or change and they end up going separate ways.
But is a tradeoff, I believe, every person who wants to be exceptional has to make sooner or later.
And the beautiful thing is some connections re-kindle when our paths cross again!
That's true. Hopefully in one of those twists and turns will get to meet some of them. And if not, get to meet other more awesome folks.